Welcome to the Resting Tree blog, where we delve into the intricacies of mental health, healing, and personal growth. As a private practice specializing in trauma-informed, compassion-focused, and humanistic approaches, we are dedicated to providing insightful and empowering content to support your journey towards holistic well-being.

Our blog is a safe space for exploring the complexities of the human experience, offering valuable resources, and fostering a sense of community. Join us as we navigate the path to healing and self-discovery, one blog post at a time.

Chinese Blog

We are also starting to offer a Chinese (Traditional + Simplified) version of the Resting Tree blog to better serve our Chinese-speaking community. This space shares the same heart and intention as our English blog—exploring topics related to mental health, healing, and personal growth from a trauma-informed, compassion-focused, and humanistic perspective.

When Everyone's Celebrating: Your Guide to Grief During the Holidays

The holiday season brings joy to many, but for over one hundred million Americans, it can intensify grief. Festive music and lights highlight the absence of loved ones. Your holiday grief matters and deserves acknowledgment. This season, meant for togetherness, often deepens sadness. Familiar sights, sounds, and traditions can become painful reminders of those no longer with us. You don't need to hide these feelings or force holiday cheer. This guide offers gentle, practical ways to navigate grief during the holidays while honoring your pain and need for connection. There's no pressure to "get over it" or "move on"—just supportive understanding for where you are now.

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The Hidden Pain of Second Generation Immigrants: Breaking the Trauma Cycle

In North America, immigrant families and their children are growing, many carrying untold burdens and stories. Intergenerational trauma can affect individuals and travel through generations, manifesting as PTSD symptoms in families, even if children did not experience the original events. Understanding these patterns is where healing begins. We're here to navigate this together, discussing hidden struggles, especially identity confusion, unexpected guilt and emotional suppression. Most importantly, we aim to provide gentle guidance for breaking cycles of pain carried through families for too long.

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Why Traditional Talk Therapy Might Not Be Enough for Trauma Healing

Studies show talk therapy can help treat PTSD and trauma, but most research is outdated, predating 2010. Recent findings suggest talk therapy is often less effective than believed. For many trauma survivors, understanding struggles doesn't guarantee improvement. Traditional psychotherapy emphasizes cognitive understanding over how trauma is stored in the body. Trauma impacts both mind and body; individuals with severe trauma may struggle with talk therapy as resurfacing memories can trigger difficult physical reactions. This article examines the inadequacy of traditional talk therapy for trauma healing, how trauma affects the nervous system, and alternative approaches that may provide better healing. We will also discuss why combining different therapeutic modalities often yields the best results for trauma recovery.

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How to Regulate Your Nervous System in Minutes: Quick Reset Guide

People today are caught in stress cycles without recovery time, leading to dysregulation and distress. Regulating your nervous system is vital for emotional balance and better stress responses. Your body signals when overwhelmed, with anxiety, irritability, and poor concentration indicating a dysregulated nervous system. This constant activation can cause burnout and physical issues like chronic pain, migraines, insomnia, sweating, or digestive problems. However, hope exists: learning to up-regulate and down-regulate your nervous system can restore balance. Quick reset methods can alleviate constant worry, racing thoughts, or sleep issues. This piece outlines eight simple techniques to quickly regulate your nervous system and restore calm, even during busy moments.

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Bouldering Psychology

What does it mean to face the unknown, one step at a time? In this reflection, I share how five years of indoor bouldering—despite not being a natural athlete—taught me about mindfulness, uncertainty, and resilience. Bouldering is more than a physical challenge; it invites us to stay present, make peace with not having all the answers, and try again after every fall. This post explores how climbing became both a personal ritual and a quiet practice in navigating life’s uncertainties, with surprising mental health benefits along the way.

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When the Ground Feels Shaky: Navigating Career and Relationship Uncertainties

Uncertainty in our careers and relationships can feel overwhelming—but it’s also a deeply human experience. In this post, we explore why the unknown is so uncomfortable, how external stressors like the economy and digital noise amplify our fear, and what tools can help us stay grounded. With journal prompts, nervous system support, and values-based guidance, we offer ways to meet uncertainty not with panic, but with presence, compassion, and curiosity.

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Parts Work Explained: A Gentle Path to Healing Your Inner Conflicts

You know that feeling when parts of your personality seem to fight each other? One minute you're committed to your diet, and the next, a voice inside tells you to grab that comfort food. This inner battle shows what parts work therapy is all about. Parts work therapy reveals that our minds consist of various aspects, not a single voice. Recognizing parts like the inner critic, worrier, or people-pleaser helps us understand conflicting feelings. This compassionate approach views challenging behaviors as protective strategies from past difficulties. This guide explores how these internal voices develop, their purpose, and simple steps to begin recognising and embracing all parts of you.

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Debunking Emotional Myths: Embracing the Truth About Our Feelings

Emotions play a crucial role in our lives, guiding our decisions and helping us understand our values. Despite their importance, many people have learned to doubt or suppress their feelings. However, emotions should be viewed as valuable internal signals rather than weaknesses. Anger may protect us or indicate boundary violations, while sadness reminds us of what we cherish during times of loss. In this article, we learn that by challenging common myths about emotions and learning to embrace our full range of feelings, we can foster deeper connections with ourselves and others, ultimately leading to improved emotional well-being.

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From Coping to Healing: Are you ready for Trauma Therapy?

Rushing into trauma therapy without proper preparation can lead to poor engagement and premature termination of therapy. Effective trauma work requires a solid foundation of emotional stability and psychological preparedness. This article aims to guide you in assessing your readiness for trauma therapy. It will help you identify crucial indicators and establish the necessary groundwork to embark on your healing journey effectively.

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Small Steps, Big Impact: How to Honour Your Daily Wins

In the pursuit of grand ambitions, we often overlook the cumulative impact of small wins, failing to recognize how these modest triumphs pave the way for significant achievements and personal growth. Most of us ignore our small wins and focus on bigger goals that seem distant. However, these small wins pack tremendous power to shape our path to success. Small victories can revolutionize our daily experience and create lasting momentum. This piece explores practical ways to celebrate daily achievements, understand their psychological effects, and build a sustainable momentum towards lasting growth.

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How to Let Go of the Past: 6 Steps to Emotional Closure

Life leaves its mark on everyone's heart. Looking back, we may recall broken relationships, missed chances, and painful moments that make letting go seem impossible at times. Moving forward is important, but our minds often get stuck in loops of regret, anger, and sadness. Letting go doesn't mean forgetting or denying what happened; it involves finding healthy ways to handle our experiences and embrace new beginnings. This piece explores six practical steps for achieving emotional closure and finding peace with our past. We'll also delve into why certain memories stay with us and how building supportive relationships aids in the healing process.

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How to Deal with Guilt When You Need to Slow Down

That familiar pang of guilt when we take a break or slow down is a significant life skill to manage. Today's society celebrates non-stop hustle, making people feel guilty about anything that doesn't boost productivity. This guilt becomes a heavy burden, pushing us harder while our bodies and minds scream for rest. Slowing down is not just acceptable, but vital. This blog will help you understand break-related guilt and the impact of constant motion. You'll find practical strategies to welcome rest without feeling guilty and build a healthier relationship with downtime.

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What Is Toxic Positivity? The Dark Side of Positive Thinking

In this article, we'll explore toxic positivity, its impact on mental health, relationships, and communication, and how to cultivate a more balanced emotional approach. Understanding this phenomenon helps us embrace authentic support and emotional honesty for healthier connections with ourselves and others.

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The Impact of Insecure Attachment Style on Your Relationships

We all want deep, meaningful connections in our relationships, but sometimes our past experiences can affect how we interact with others. When we have an insecure attachment style, it can make it difficult to trust and fear being abandoned. By understanding attachment theory and its effects, we can work towards creating more stable and fulfilling romantic relationships.

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Overcoming Overstimulation: Strategies for Sensory Balance

Feeling overwhelmed? You're not alone. Our world today is full of constant noise and distractions. These never-ending inputs can wear us down, leading to stress and emotional struggles. It's important to recognize when it's all too much and take steps to find balance. Let's talk about overstimulation - from our always-on devices to how it affects our minds. We'll look at simple ways to cut down on distractions and make space for calm. By doing this, we can build a healthier connection with our surroundings and find more peace in our daily lives.

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Summer Social Anxiety: Tips for a Relaxed Season

As summer unfolds, bringing longer days and more social gatherings, many of us face challenges amplified by the season's bright sunlight. Summer social anxiety magnifies self-consciousness, worry, and discomfort in social settings, exacerbating feelings of loneliness and FOMO (fear of missing out). Recognizing the impact of summer on our mental well-being is the first step toward navigating these months with grace. Hot weather can contribute to anxiety, so understanding why and how this happens is essential.

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Navigating the Bicultural Experience: Balancing Heritage with New Norms

Finding harmony between cultural backgrounds and current norms is a challenge in today's globalized society. This journey is personal and relevant, touching on mental health, self-awareness, and personal identity. In this article, we'll explore bicultural life, starting with understanding bicultural identity. We'll discuss strategies for balancing traditional values with new norms, emphasizing mental health and self-awareness. Through this journey, we aim to appreciate the nuances of bicultural experiences and support those walking this path.

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Living Your Own Pace: Overcoming the Pressure of Falling Behind in Life

In today's fast-paced world, many of us struggle with feelings of inadequacy as they compare themselves to others. This article underscores the importance of setting personal goals, dedicating effort to self-improvement, and resisting societal pressures related to success. By recognizing our emotions, engaging in mindfulness, cultivating gratitude, and skillfully navigating challenges, we can move towards our aspirations and savor life's experiences at a pace that aligns with our individual needs and values.

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Creating a Nurturing Mental Space at Home

Creating a nurturing mental space at home is essential for fostering overall well-being and mental health. The aim of this article is to guide you in cultivating your own mental headspace at home, supporting mindfulness and well-being. We'll explore steps for simplifying and decluttering, introducing nature, using sensory elements for comfort, and personalizing your surroundings to create a mental safe space.

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New Year, True You: Setting Intentions for Authentic Living

With the arrival of a new year, many of us feel a renewed sense of motivation and a desire to make positive changes in our lives. We set goals, make resolutions, and set out on a journey of self-improvement. But what if, instead of focusing on external achievements, we shifted our focus inward? What if, instead of striving for perfection, we focused on living authentically and nurturing our mental well-being?

In this article, we explore the idea of embracing a new year, true you. We delve into the power of setting intentions and how they can guide us towards leading a more authentic and fulfilling life. By setting intentions, we establish a clear direction for our thoughts and actions, allowing us to align our choices with our true values and desires.

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